So here we are, new mums on the block.. Phenomemum. But it’s not really me. It’s YOU.
Having a think about what it means to be a phenomenal mum is a little bit silly really because ALL mums are phenomenal. At any point of the day when you dig deep, take a breath and do your best.. you are phenomenal. It’s just about believing it too.
A phenomemum is not about being better or best, but being happy with who you are right now and knowing you are good enough. Good enough for your family, your friends, your parents, the school PTA and the flippin milkman. (does he even still exist?)
It’s lying next to your 3-year-old as he goes to sleep, foreheads touching, breathing in sync. knowing those extra few minutes mean so much. Even if you are pissed off because your dinner is in the oven getting dryer by the minute and you’ve missed the beginning of MasterChef.
It’s not about being the mum that always turns up to the picnic with freshly chopped cucumber and peppers (I love those mums) but being the one that whips enough Barney bears out for all the kids when it’s time to bribe them back in the car… we love those mums too!
It’s getting up in the middle of the night when your baby cries for what feels like the 95th time, even though you fling the duvet off and feel a surge of desperation and desolation. Because every fibre of your being is moving your feet and guiding you to their room.
Phenomenal mums get in the shower tingling in anticipation at 3 and a half minutes alone, only for the door to barge open and a child pronounce ‘I need a poo’. We still get out of the shower to wipe their bums. THAT is sacrifice people. Loosing that 1 min 30 seconds and still loving that little human is what it’s all about.
It’s cooking 3 different meals in one evening because sometimes you do anything for an easy life and not argue about who’s having fish fingers and who’s having macaroni cheese and why suddenly no-one likes peas!!
Even on the very worst of days, dealing with whatever crap this life sometimes throws at us, Phenomenal mums wake up, get up and show up in any way they can. Even if it’s a packed lunch, a lift to school or just a smile. Whatever personal journey a mum is on, her children know they are loved.
So, it’s not only looking after your children’s needs, but knowing you have some too! Whether it’s catching up on season 2 of ‘This Is Us’ with a family bag of maltesers and a pack of tissues, or going out-out with your friends and drinking your body weight in gin once in a while. Time to be YOU matters.
It’s about not trying to be perfect or striving for perfection, as a parent or a woman or human being. What is perfect anyway? Who’s keeping score, cos it ain’t Craig Revel bloody Horwood. All we know is it should be ‘Love All’.
Being a Phenomemum is loving with all your might, even when you don’t feel mighty.
Being a Phenomemum is being you.